2025 goal (same as 2020+): Keeping it real. Grief & joy in every day, making room for both.Approaching interactions with fellow humans with curiosity & compassion, as opposed to judgement & reckless disregard for the fragility that comes with living through this timeline. Being shouted at, hung up on. gaslit, threatened and attacked is an occupational hazard. It's the price I'm required to pay for the privilege of having a platform. I persist, preserve, lick my wounds & go back into battle.
When it comes to personal relationships, different rules apply. If I'm intentionally disrespected in any of the above (or other) ways in my personal sphere, I walk away or distance. No arguments, no drama, no explaining, no defending. I am never careless with anyone's feelings & expect the same standards of care for myself and my family. Having clear personal boundaries about respectful relationships involving healthy, kind & difficult conversations, is how I have the strength to deal with the deluge of abuse & disrespect in my professional life. My family & friends (very few, kind, gentle, safe souls) are my life & my lifeline.
Anyone interested in building authentic relationships even if it means losing attachments, this short vid by trauma & addiction (including social media validation seeking) specialist Dr Gabor Maté is a good place to start👇I drew on his work a lot working with trauma & addiction patients, and personally. His insights are true of any/all relationships. Although, Gabor hasn't adapted his work to reflect the reality of an ongoing pandemic, the principle (authenticity vs attachment) remains fiercely relevant.
I started the year by carrying out a digital mental health audit. Result: Continue to stay off fascist hell scape (x) & keep Facebook/fake news hate forum access to an absolute minimum. Questioning if I can access info anywhere else before logging in.
Deleted all but 3 WhatsApp groups (2 of which are populated with experts who are judicious in what they share). Noisy/chatty groups, gone. Guard your peace from attention stealing devices. 2025 marks the start of an era where intentional safeguarding of mental health has never been more crucial. Think of clicking & doom scrolling as akin to consuming poison. You're gonna feel nauseas, experience free floating anxiety & sleep problems after a days binge.
Phone goes off a couple of hours before bed, permanently on mute, often in a drawer. Out of sight, out of mind.
I hope the photos below bring you some of the joy they brought me. January💖
Cocoa warming on the hob, scones fresh out of oven, ready for guests to arrive👇
Son & friend giving it welly in their outdoor Kung Fu class - in January👊💕
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